So, because of the delay, I am writing about an incident that happened in June. I think we have all been in a situation where a sound, or picture, or smell has brought you back to something in your past. For instance, every time I smell VapoRub, I think back to that time as a little child that my great grandmother rubbed it into an open wound. It still brings tears to my eyes. Well, for the most part I feel I am over this cancer stuff. Sure, I still have a few more years of CTscans, X-rays, blood tests, and all of the other monitoring. I am not exactly sure how many years, because asking an oncologist how much longer you need to see him, is similar to asking your parents on a road trip "are we there yet?". I think the answer has always been "4 or 5 more years" (for the oncologist visits, not the road trip...it just seemed like it took 4 or 5 years sometimes). Other than the endless doctors' appointments, I really don't have much to do with cancer. Oh there is still the solemn tone from friends you don't see very often asking "How are you doing?" But for the most part, I am living my life.
I love playing guitar. I play like I play golf, I don't play particularly well, but I don't take it too seriously and I enjoy doing it. When I had my surgery, I was restricted in what I could lift. Luckily, just before I was diagnosed, I had found some cheap used Paul Reed Smith guitars. They were the lightest guitars I owned, and were pretty much the only ones I could lift and play for a long time. They were the one thing that was able to get my mind off how bad things were for an hour or so at a time. When I finished my chemo, my family all pitched in and bought me a nice Paul Reed Smith for Christmas. The guitar means a lot to me for so many reasons. First I just like the guitar! But it symbolized closing the door on cancer. It meant a lot for my family to pitch in and get me something like that. And it was something I spent a lot of time with during my "chemo brain" months. So, a coincidental introduction to PRS guitars, ending up having a pretty significant impact on that period of my life.
Which brings me to what happened in June. Every year, Sweetwater Music has what basically amounts to "musician porn" at their campus in Fort Wayne, Indiana. Literally hundreds of manufacturers are there showing off all their new toys, letting you play with them, and they bring in dozens of endorsed artists (some more famous than others) to trick you into thinking that if you just had that equipment, you could make all those amazing sounds too! Well, Paul Reed Smith was on hand. Not just the company, Paul Reed Smith the actual person. In my past, I worked for a record company, regularly hanging out backstage and on tour buses of multi-platinum and even diamond selling artists (diamond is ten million copies). I was never nervous or star struck hanging out with rock stars, but being the geek I am, I was excited to see a guy that designs guitars.
One good thing is, I was right at home with my fellow geeks, because there was a full auditorium of us waiting to see him (although, I was one of the few that showed up an hour early to stand in line, and made it to the front row). I watched his presentation in awe when he talked about all the technical things that make his company's guitars sound so good. I had heard he was good about doing "meet and greets" with his fans, and throughout waiting in line, and his presentation, and...waiting in line again to meet him, I ran through my head exactly what I was going to say. I was going to tell him, how his products got me through some dark times. Thank him profusely. And maybe talk to him about the technical nuances of a quality guitar (not that I know what I am talking about, but I can fake it).
The problem with be one of the first ones in the auditorium for the presentation, is that means you are going to be one of the last ones out to stand in line for the meet and greet. The whole time in line, I ran over my little monologue in my head. Over and over again, as the line grew smaller and I moved closer and closer to this guy who really has no idea that his guitar helped me with my cancer fight (although his company does regular donate to cancer charities). Then the big moment, I am standing before THE Paul Reed Smith...and I feel like I am at the oncologist's office for the first time, all the emotion came flooding back from that day. I felt the fear, felt overwhelmed, I felt like I was going to burst into tears...but I WAS NOT going to do that...no matter what!
So, I stood before Paul Reed Smith, handed him part of my guitar to sign. And was afraid if I said anything I would have an emotional outburst. So, in an effort to hold back this flood of emotions, I stood there looking like I was probably about to punch him. He asked me if I would like the autograph personalized and my big speech that I had practiced over and over again, was now reduced to one word, "Tom". Yes, all that I had planned on saying, all that I wanted to thank him for was boiled down to me barely uttering my own name through clenched teeth. He politely signed my piece for me and I briskly walked out of there, trying not to break into an all out sprint as I headed to my car, hoping if I went fast enough I could outrun this emotional avalanche. But I was also hoping if I couldn't keep it together, I would be far enough away that no one would see me.
Now, let me just say one thing in my defense. The surgery I had to help prevent a different kind of cancer, has caused me to be a hypoglycemic. And sometimes when people have low blood sugar, they tend to get more intense emotions. And, because I am a big geek, I got so busy looking at musician porn, and standing in line an hour early, and sitting through a presentation, and standing in line again, that I went about 14 hours without eating (not a smart thing for a hypoglycemic to do). So I will blame part of this incident on that, so as not to appear to be such a wuss.
So, I didn't get to thank Paul Reed Smith. And to be honest, I don't know what he would have thought about it if I did. It's not like he found the lump, or performed the surgery, or administered the chemo, but he was still important to my recovery, even if that isn't why he got in the guitar business. But this incident says a lot about us cancer survivors. You never know what is going to help us get through a hard time. It could be a book, a phone call, visits from a friend, or a cheap used guitar. And it is hard to feel "done" with cancer when you are still going to doctors' appointments every few months. They tell you it's over with, but in the very next breath, tell you to come back in November. And just like any other major event in your life, you never know what trigger will bring you back a memory or a feeling, that you may or may not want to experience again. At least, I got to meet him. I got something signed to me personally. And I got something to eat so something like that didn't happen again.
